Estrangement: Time Passes So Quickly

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Time passes so quickly.

One day you are standing in the middle of heartbreak, barely able to breathe through the shock of estrangement… and then suddenly, you look up and entire seasons have passed.

Life keeps moving.

The sun keeps rising.

The world keeps turning.

And somehow, in the middle of the grief, the silence, the prayers, the tears, and the longing… God keeps working.

So much has happened.

And through it all, one truth continues to remain unwavering in my life:

God is good.

Not only in the moments we understand.

Not only when reconciliation comes.

Not only when prayers are answered the way we hoped they would be.

God is good in every season.

He is the God of our past, our present, and our future.

He was there before the estrangement began.

He is with us now in the middle of the healing journey.

And He is already preparing the future we cannot yet see.

As time has passed, I have realized something deeply personal and profoundly life-changing:

So much healing has taken place in me… and so much healing is still taking place.

Healing is not always loud. Sometimes it happens quietly in the hidden places of the heart. Sometimes it happens through tears during prayer. Sometimes it happens while reading Scripture in the early morning hours. Sometimes it happens in complete surrender when we finally stop fighting what God is trying to teach us.

Through studying the Bible, praying, and learning to truly listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit, I have begun to understand something I never fully saw before:

This estrangement journey is not only about loss.

It is also about becoming.

Becoming who God created me to be.

Before the beginning of time, God knew me.

He knew every detail of my story.

Every joy.

Every wound.

Every prayer.

Every heartbreak.

Every tear that would ever fall from my eyes.

And still… He created me intentionally with purpose.

Just as He created you with purpose.

Jeremiah 1:5 says:

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart…”

What a powerful reminder for those of us walking through estrangement.

We are not forgotten.

We are not discarded.

We are not unloved because someone disconnected from us.

Our identity was never meant to rest in rejection.

Our identity rests in the God who formed us, knows us completely, and loves us unconditionally.

And this journey has taught me something else I will carry with me for the rest of my life:

I have learned how deeply I am loved by God.

Not because I have everything figured out.

Not because every relationship has been restored.

Not because life has been easy.

Simply because I belong to Him.

There were moments during estrangement when I felt abandoned by people I never imagined would walk away. Moments where the grief felt so heavy that I wondered how my heart could continue carrying it.

But in those moments, God kept reminding me of something eternal:

He will never leave me or forsake me.

Humans may fail us.

Relationships may fracture.

People may misunderstand us.

But the love of God remains faithful through it all.

And what comfort there is in knowing that His love does not shift with circumstances.

I know now, more than ever before, that He truly is working all things together for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.

All things.

Even this.

Even estrangement.

Even silence.

Even waiting.

Even grief.

Even the unanswered questions.

God wastes nothing.

And somehow, through this painful process, He has been shaping me, refining me, strengthening me, and teaching me to depend on Him more deeply than ever before.

And I believe many of you reading this know this too.

Together, you and I, know this.

That is part of our purpose in this life we have been blessed by God to live: to encourage one another to remember that we are loved.

To remind one another that we are not abandoned.

Not forgotten.

Not alone.

We have God.

And we have each other.

There is something sacred about finding others who understand this kind of pain. People who understand the silent grief of estrangement. People who understand what it means to love deeply while carrying heartbreak.

We help one another carry the weight of healing, faith, hope, and love.

And truly… the love of God is weighty.

Not a burden.

A load.

A holy fullness that settles deeply into our lives and transforms us from the inside out.

His love carries weight because it is real.

It is powerful.

It is overwhelming in the most beautiful way.

What a privilege it is to be loved by our Heavenly Father in such a profound way that we actually need one another to help carry the fullness of that love.

What a gift it is to remind each other, especially during estrangement, that we are still safely held in the hands of God.

Sometimes estrangement strips away the noise of life and forces us into deeper dependence on Him. And while that process can feel painful, it can also become sacred.

Because in the stillness… we begin hearing Him more clearly.

We begin discovering who we really are outside of fear, striving, rejection, and desperation.

We begin understanding that our value was never dependent on who stayed or who left.

We begin healing.

Not perfectly.

Not instantly.

But deeply.

And maybe that healing is part of the miracle too.

I know many of you reading this are still carrying tremendous pain. Some of you are newly estranged. Some of you have walked this road for years. Some of you miss your children, your parents, your siblings, your grandchildren, or relationships that feel impossibly broken.

Please hear this today:

God still has a future for you.

Estrangement is part of your story, but it is not the end of your story.

There is still purpose ahead.

Still joy ahead.

Still growth ahead.

Still beauty ahead.

Still ministry ahead.

Still life ahead.

And even now, in ways you may not fully understand yet, God is shaping you into who you were always created to become.

Time passes so quickly.

But through every season, every heartbreak, every prayer, and every step of healing…

God remains faithful.

With love,

Crystal

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